Letting Go

by jdeena

No, this isn’t a post about forgetting a lost love, holding a grudge against a friend, or even jumping out of a plane on your first skydiving trip. Recently, I’ve noticed this e-card circulating around Facebook, and every time I see it, it pisses me off. You might think that’s a pretty strong reaction to an e-card, but the people who post it are really just using it as an excuse.



Now, after reading it, what are your thoughts? To me it’s an excuse to be sloppy and wear yoga pants and stained tshirts 24/7 because you don’t want to do laundry. I know, I’m mean. Women have a hard time raising kids; it takes a lot of time and energy. I find it funny though that my mom, aunts, and cousins have all had kids and yet still manage to find time to look presentable. They exercise, eat right, and wear ironed clothes. SHOCKER!

Look, I know having kids is tough, especially if your spouse works a lot and leaves the child rearing to you alone. And if you have more than 2 kids, then you really need a medal because that’s a full-time job and then some. But to use your kids as an excuse for letting yourself go is a cop-out. Take responsibility for your actions, and just admit that you are lazy, or don’t even care about your appearance. That’s fine! Even admirable, because at least it’d be the truth. To blame your kids for your lack of motivation however is pretty pathetic. I’m sure I probably will piss off a lot of my married friends, but I’m not targeting you so don’t worry. It’s the ones who judge mothers who take care of themselves that I aim this blog at. Don’t say a woman has no priorities just because she goes to the salon and gets regular manicures, or takes time out of the day to hit the gym. There is nothing wrong with that, and actually going to the gym will in turn give you more energy and probably keep your husband happy since you won’t expand by 50 pounds.

I don’t have kids, but I have watched my 2 year old cousin often enough to realize that yes, it is VERY hard to clean, do laundry, run errands, take a shower, and get dressed when a child demands all your attention. BUT….it can be done!

The struggle is real, ladies, but it’s only impossible if you let it be. Don’t give in.