Appearances are (not) Deceiving

by jdeena

I’m going to take the opportunity to warn you that this post is going to seem superficial and materialistic. This post is going to solely be dedicated to appearances and the importance that a good appearance plays in our every day life.

One of the things I teach in my classes is how to be prepared for work, and the one point I emphasize is your appearance. Now, we can sit here and argue all day long how looks don’t matter, and it’s all about the person underneath the clothes. However, everything we do in society claims otherwise. We are drawn to the shiny, the new, the pretty, the lithe, the glamorous, the beautiful, the charistmatic, the attention-grabbing, the well-assembled, the approachable, the handsome, the charming, the engaging…

The list could go on, I assure you. No matter what anyone says, looks matter. However, I will make the point that looks should not be the ONLY thing that matter.

Now, back to my thoughts.

In society, we are conditioned at a very young age that looks are important. We are surrounded by airbrushed, glossy, perfection. Advertisements for beauty products and must-have wardrobe staples grace our TV, radio, cell phones, and computer. Feeling good is about looking good. One cannot happen without the other.

So why not embrace it? Why do we fight the theory when we know deep down it is what needs to be done? There is nothing wrong with taking some pride in your appearance. There is a limit though; I do not condone being a brand snob. I look good and I bargain shop. Recently my clothes have come from Old Navy, TJ Maxx, Marshalls, and Forever 21. I like to think that I have fashion appeal, and I can put together outfits that look good without going broke.

We know that people judge us by our appearance. I find it humorous when people will claim that if someone doesn’t like them without makeup or when they are in their sweats then they don’t deserve them at all. How do you expect to attract the fish with no bait? Bad analogy (or a good one, depending on your taste) but it is true. Your appearance is what lures them in, and if you have the personality to match eventually that will take the front seat. I feel like if you take the time to put yourself together, you are making a statement about yourself. You are letting society know that you are ambitious and have a winning attitude.

I should probably stop rambling on before I start sounding stuck-up. But ask yourself this: would you want to go into a dirty restaurant, an unorganized retail space, or be taught by an unprepared teacher?

I’m guessing your answer is no, and if so, you just proved my point.